Always the Bridesmaid, never the Bride
Jan. 31st, 2004 10:11 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
zessaI've come to the conclusion that I'm just not meant to be the "biggest" or "most" of anything... not the most talented, most popular, most desired, most liked... etc. Always the bridesmaid never the bride.
Somehow that phrase fits my life to a T. Almost but not quite, smart but not smart enough to get into GSP, or stay in honors program (unless my grades go up a tad). Talented, but not talented enough to get in the top choirs or have top parts. Sociable, but not sociable enough to nab a guy, or have a multitude of friends. Funny, but without the ability to tell if it's truly funny or just stupid.
So much almost but not quite... I wonder sometimes why I haven't just given up trying. (No I'm not suicidal... so don't call the shrinks on me)
It's just after years of that I wonder what my place in life will be. Everyone seems to have there thing that they excel at. Whether it be social stuff, academic things, romantic relationships or even physical abilities. Yet somehow I don't have anything that I am the best at.
Always the bridemaid... never the bride. Somehow I've been fated in life to be the supportive friend, the buddy, or the group shrink.
Always the bridesmaid... never the bride.
Somehow that phrase fits my life to a T. Almost but not quite, smart but not smart enough to get into GSP, or stay in honors program (unless my grades go up a tad). Talented, but not talented enough to get in the top choirs or have top parts. Sociable, but not sociable enough to nab a guy, or have a multitude of friends. Funny, but without the ability to tell if it's truly funny or just stupid.
So much almost but not quite... I wonder sometimes why I haven't just given up trying. (No I'm not suicidal... so don't call the shrinks on me)
It's just after years of that I wonder what my place in life will be. Everyone seems to have there thing that they excel at. Whether it be social stuff, academic things, romantic relationships or even physical abilities. Yet somehow I don't have anything that I am the best at.
Always the bridemaid... never the bride. Somehow I've been fated in life to be the supportive friend, the buddy, or the group shrink.
Always the bridesmaid... never the bride.
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Date: 2004-02-03 01:18 am (UTC)But...I'll tell you a couple of things that I've learned, and maybe they'll help. I hope they will, anyway.
1) Never, never, never let other people's perceptions of you wear you down. I know you're still bruised from the whole Weaver thing, and that's not something that's easy to shake. Still, you're strong -- a lot stronger than most people I know, actually. You can rise above it.
2) You are *not* "almost" talented, funny, etc. You're _very_ talented, _very_ funny, _very_ smart. These are not things that can be faked. I know the real deal when I see it.
3) As far as having friends goes, seriously, I learned a long time ago that I'd take quality over quantity any day. I'm not the sort of person that just randomly will hang out with people that I tolerate. I'm really, really guarded and really, really picky...so I only hang out with people who I genuinely think are cool. I can't stress that enough.
So, yes. Chin up, kiddo -- I think you're cool, and I think you're going to achieve big things.
But in the meantime, I'm going to go read Donna The Vampire Slayer. :-D
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